Most of us whether we admit it or not are reactive beings. Instead of planning we proclaim spontaneity; instead of responsibility we point blame; instead of being graceful, we scramble to stay afloat. Reactive individuals may dream of initiative but they never carry it out. Random events toss you to and fro and often catch you by surprise. Many of my clients come to me requesting miracles and perceive they will either return to a past state or eliminate a current one. Unfortunately for most individuals a bulk of the harm has already been done. Reactivity is a learned response and typically leads to heart ache and unwanted outcomes that weekly visits to the fitness center will not solve.
Why are we this way? I believe that the easy way is always just that “the easy way”. Becoming proactive takes work and time management. Between work, family and social events very few of us take time to put together a daily, monthly or yearly plan. If you think about it proactive and reactive are pretty much the same thing. Both involve actions just at different times. The proactive individual thinks ahead, plans, looking at different scenarios. The reactive person acts only after an event takes place or sees no value in planning.
Who is to blame? I don’t think there is one answer to this question. No where in our education system do we learn how to better use our time. Most of our parents never learned so where do we get this skill? The first step to being proactive is learning to be proactive. Just take a moment and think about the question. It’s time to start planning your plan.







